When did what you post become more important than what you can offer??

Dealing with the crazy fact that a social media platform owned by a billioaire white boy can destroy a business before it starts.



1/1/20252 min read

Let's be honest... I grew up in a time where we had Micro Bee computers and played "Where in the World is Carmen Sandiego"...and not the cool version!!

Yes I have computer skills and yes I have social media but the idea of doing "the first post" for Confidante Life Coaching for Women literally paralysed me for days. It was so overwhelming that I considered not even building my business... a business that I have dreamt of opening...On a positive during this period of absolute terror I did clean my laundry, sort my herbs in random order and watch enough Vikings episodes that my children were no longer surprised when I ambushed them entering the kitchen with a terrible accent!

BUT in all seriousness it led me to think... How and why can a platform, that can literally be turned on and off at a switch, control me and my dreams?

How can these platforms cause such anxiety...whether it is the fisrt post of your business, a photo from a party that you don't look the best in or the endless images of "perfect" lives that you feel you are falling well short of. When did the fake world become more important than the real world???

So what did I do I hear you all ask?

Well I remembered the words I had seen today and they were...."Who is more important: the people you are with and want to be with or the people you imagine are watching?"

And the answer is simple and clear...I love voyeurs...KIDDING...wellll...

But seriously it is the people I already know and love, it is the people I will meet through this business and life that I will

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Recognize the Source of Your Anxiety: Take some time to reflect on the source of your anxiety. Is it related to a specific event or situation? Or is it a more generalized feeling of fear and worry? Once you identify the source of your anxiety, you can start taking steps to address it.

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Engage in Regular Exercise: Exercise is a great way to reduce stress and anxiety. Find an activity that you enjoy and make it a regular part of your routine.

Seek Professional Help: If your anxiety is severe or if you are struggling to manage it on your own, don't hesitate to seek professional help. A mental health professional can provide you with the tools and support you need to break free from paralyzing anxiety.

Breaking free from anxiety is a process that takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself and celebrate your progress along the way. With the right mindset and strategies, you can overcome paralyzing anxiety and live a fulfilling life.